All Relationships Weren’t Meant to Last
That sounds a bit funny, but it’s true. If we are honest, we would admit that no relationship lasts forever. It’s our job to understand that we are here to love, honor, and respect those who are in our lives for as long as they are there. If we are even more honest, we will admit that we don’t want all of our relationships to last. Some people are a part of our lives just to get us from one milestone to the next. That’s okay. We will call them our guides. Guides are people who show up at the right time. Help you navigate unknown territory and then just as quickly as they came, they vanish. They leave because that part of your journey is over. This post is dedicated to those who don’t know when to let their guide go. You make the process much harder than it has to be.
This is a telltale sign of a relationship in decline. Anytime there is a break in communication, there is a problem. Communication is a cornerstone in the foundation of a relationship. If that fails, the house falls. But you already knew that. You have had relationships that just faded away. You’ve had friendships that just grew apart. So have I. I am actually dealing with that now. We just don’t talk anymore. When I noticed it, I brought it to her attention. It was met with a bit disbelief and rebuke. For a while, things got better. We started talking more and things were back to “normal”. Unfortunately, it fell off again. I didn’t fight it this time. I won’t say anything else. It is entirely possible that we have run our course and staying in this friendship may hinder our growth. I don’t want to be the force that keeps another person from reaching their next level.
Most people who I care about have my cell number. I will admit that I am a texting machine. I will communicate with anyone who communicates with me. I enjoy strengthening relationships. These days, it is a must. I know if I haven’t received a call, text, or a smoke signal within the past 30 days, our relationship needs to be nurtured. If I reach out and there is still no change in the level of communication, I begin to let go. I don’t write people out of my life forever, but I don’t invest that much into hearing from them. It would be great if you set your own personal boundaries in that area too. Think about it, who wants to be that person? You know, the one who can’t take a hint.
Touch Me Here
So many studies have been done on the importance of touch. I won’t cite them here because I didn’t read any. Why? Because there is no need to cite them. You know how important touch is to you. If my husband doesn’t hug me or kiss me, I feel awkward. I want to know what’s wrong. I want to know what’s changed. It’s the same with my close girlfriends. If we are in close proximity, we are laughing, joking, and we may tap each other on the back or touch each other on the leg. You know what I mean, right? You touch the people you are comfortable with. When relationships become uncomfortable, the physical interaction screeches to a halt. How is the touch in your relationships?
If You Think You’re Lonely Now….
You know the song right? I remember the Jodeci version. I can see the cosmetically challenged one singing his lil heart out. Anyway, we are all busy these days. Time is precious. If you are trying to spend time with a lover or friend and they are always busy or make plans with you and blow you off later, there is a problem. You know as well as I do that there are some people you have no desire to spend time with. On the other hand, there are others who you would ditch your Mom to just get a few minutes with. You will either make time or you will make excuses.
Ride Off Into the Sunset
Don’t get me wrong. This is not a post to tell you to write off everyone in your life that won’t behave as you think they should. We should have patience and communicate our true feelings no matter how uncomfortable it may make us feel. Your family and friends are not mind readers. You have to be honest in regards to your needs otherwise they cannot be met. You deny people the tools to meet your needs. That is truly unfair to you both. This post is to let you know that it’s okay for people to make the choices that are best for them. That is the time that you should take to do the same. No one can fault you for acting in your own best interest. So, don’t hold back. Do it.
Have you had a relationship that has fizzled?
How did you handle it?
Let me know in the comment section below.